3 Mistakes you make when you move for your partner's job

13 Apr 2021Updated: 4 hours ago | 52 people are reading

3 Mistakes you make when you move for your partner's job

© Maaike Oude Geerdink 3 Mistakes that you make when you move for your partner's job

Your partner will finally receive that long-awaited promotion, but there is a snag. This means that you have to move to another city. And what about your career? To ensure that you do not regret this, try to prevent these three most common errors.

1. Pure financial

Money is essential to take into consideration when making this big decision. But if you use this as the only reason to take the job, it can be counterproductive. Keep in mind that you also drastically change your partner's life. Talk about your underlying psychological fears and social concerns.

2. Short-term thinking

Don't think in the short term, but look at what this means for you in the future. Do you ever want to go back to the city where you have built your life? Or do you want to go abroad for a longer period? Choosing a home base in another country or city brings emotions with it. And, the last thing you want is for someone to get homesick and your relationship will break.

3. Cheerleader

Nice that you are a supporter for your partner and that you would like to support him, but don't be silent if you don't feel that way. "Couples where one feels that he / she is not doing so well, feel that they should be a 'cheerleader' for the other. This way you do not share your fears and you have a conflict sooner than couples who are each other mutual support, "says Jennifer Petriglieri, author of the book Couples that Work.

Try to solve the problem together. Talk in the 'we' form, since you have to do it together. And don't blame each other. Try to find a solution so that you both support each other in the choice that you must make together.