"Can I address my daughter (17) about her corona eating behavior?"
15 May 2021Updated: 4 hours ago | people are reading
WOMAN reader Herma (51) sees that her daughter has had a different eating and exercise pattern since before the corona crisis. She is a bit worried, but does not want to hurt her daughter by talking to her about her poor self-image.© Offered by De Telegraaf
Herma writes: "" Since the corona crisis started, and my daughter (17) she no longer goes to school and can no longer go to football training, she has started eating more, I see that in her, she has the tendency to get fuller quickly and I see the pounds coming up. that are not immediately reason to go on a diet or something like that, but I am increasingly inclined to say something about this.
I think it is better to be more aware of diet, and it can also be no harm to walk or cycle for a bit of healthy exercise every now and then I have mentioned the latter twice cautiously, but I get waved away immediately Maybe she thinks it's too confrontational I don't want to hurt her and absolutely not give the idea that she is not beautiful or too heavy, but i I want to keep her from breaking through. How do I do this? "
Adolescent coach Janneke ter Bille understands that Herma is watching her daughter in this way, but nevertheless sees no point in a conversation." if a parent is worried about your child's weight gain, it's hard not to drop it in a conversation Herma daughter is 17 and will have to take more and more responsibility for her own choices. ”
Janneke therefore advises Herma to leave the choice to her daughter. "I would advise not to interfere. If she wants to do something about her weight, she will certainly take that initiative on her own. When she comes to ask for advice, you are there for her and don't say that eating sugars and carbohydrates is bad, but rather name products that are healthy, and good alternatives to sweets and snacks. ”< p> Set a good example
"It might also help if you get healthy products and fewer snacks. You can also set a good example yourself by walking or cycling, and ask if she would like to come along. This allows you to shift your focus to what your daughter would like to achieve, rather than focusing on her appearance. ”
“ Your daughter's eating habits and self-image can change as soon as others interact with her body. and interfere with weight. You don't want that for her, so let go of that bit. Really let go.
"Be proud of what your daughter can and wants to do and give her the confidence to tackle her increasing weight. And, let me repeat it a bit, set a good example myself! ”