Distracted during sex? This is why

17 Jun 2021Updated: 4 hours ago | 52 people are reading

Distracted during sex? This is why

© Shutterstock It occurs in many relationships, but you can do something about it. Find out the cause and some solutions here.

Do you have a successful relationship with someone you really like, but keep getting distracted during sex and fail to stay in the moment? According to sex therapist Vanessa Marin, there is a reason for this and you can solve it.


There are many things that can distract you during sex. You can think of household tasks, groceries, problems at work and more. People who become distracted during sex quickly become insecure. It is therefore important to know that the distraction has nothing to do with the interest or love you have for your partner. It doesn't have to be sex, either.

Everyday Behavior

The underlying reason is that many people hardly ever spend a long time doing just one thing. We constantly watch our smartphones, we are multitasking at work and we hardly ever get bored. This will also affect activities such as sex. So it doesn't matter how handsome the other person is or how good the sex is, because you're just not used to focusing on one thing for a long time. For example, if you can't watch a movie or an episode of a series without getting distracted or grabbing your smartphone, the same will probably happen during sex.

Unfortunately, the solution is easier said than done, because you will train your attention span by, for example, leaving your phone on the left more often. It can also help to pay more attention to foreplay, so that you take your time to get 'in the mood'.

Source: Bustle