"I can't see my lover because of the lockdown ..."

27 Feb 2021Updated: 4 hours ago | 52 people are reading

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COLUMN - In Lieve Sabine we discuss striking, fun, difficult and sometimes painful problems every week. This time a WOMAN reader who cannot see her lover because of the obligation to stay at home.

"Dear Sabine, I am completely mad with love because of this stupid corona crisis: I cannot see my lover now! We are both not very happily married but have young children. So that's why we stick with our partner. But meanwhile we have had a steamy affair for almost five months. We met at the gym and one thing led to another. But now that we are no longer allowed to exercise and are allowed to go outside anyway for the groceries, we cannot see each other. I miss him so much but I don't want my husband to find out. We secretly text but I haven't seen him in four weeks. The walls are closing in on me and I don't know what to do! ”

Sabine:“ I'll tell you straight away: I don't understand your situation very much. Sorry. And I find it difficult to give you advice. You are now chanting an affair that can only end badly. Think about your kids, and his. To your partner who cheat you. Just be honest and leave your husband. Why should he be allowed to get bothered by you? ”

“ If you are not happy with your partner, this forced home situation is the perfect reason to put all the attention and energy into your relationship. Try to go back to the feeling you had in the beginning. Maybe you could ask Arthur Aron's 36 questions together? That is a questionnaire that has been specially compiled to restore (try to) restore the intimacy between two lovers, to inflame the love. Who knows, that list may work for you too. Take advantage of it! ”