Selective hearing: how often does your partner ignore you?
12 May 2021Updated: 4 hours ago | people are reading
© Shutterstock Do you feel that your partner wanders off when you talk to him or her? There may be selective hearing.
"Are you listening, honey?"
"Sure, of course."
"What did I say?"
"Uhm .. .
If your partner regularly wanders during conversations and does not seem to hear some things, there may be selective hearing. What can you do if your partner does not always pay close attention?
There are several ways in which you can be ignored by your partner. Sometimes it depends on the topic you are talking about. As soon as one talks about shopping or football, the other can wander spontaneously, while a nodding gesture may be made from time to time. It can also be related to your tone. Try to say in a calm, casual manner that you are having an affair. If your partner responds positively or neutrally, then your partner probably was not listening.
A British hearing company conducted research showing that men are guilty of selective hearing seven times a week and women six times. More than half of the respondents think it may be due to their partner's hearing. Hearing loss can indeed cause your partner to not always understand you, but you can doubt that this is the main cause of selective hearing.
Selective hearing can arise because you got into a routine. This can give you the feeling that you have had conversations before and then you are less attentive. Be careful not to grow apart in this way. Regularly try to talk sincerely about your feelings and thoughts without distractions. Because television, radio or a smartphone can make it much easier to get lost.