The parenting issue: son (7) does not do his school duties
12 May 2021Updated: 4 hours ago | people are reading
Emma's seven-year-old son has not been to school for weeks and has to do his school duties at home. To Emma's chagrin, her son is unable to burn ahead, causing her to explode. How could this be otherwise?
She has always had a lot of respect for people in education, but in the past few weeks that feeling has grown even more with Emma. As well as the annoyances about her son Liam: “Like almost every parent, I now 'teach' my seven-year-old son at home. But it is a torture. When I explain some of his homework, Liam doesn't pay any attention. He does not do his best and understands little about the material. In any case, it takes the greatest effort to get him to work. My patience is running out and I have exploded several times, including screaming and ranting. Then of course I feel guilty again. How can we do this better? ”
Almost every parent recognizes Emma's frustration, says Janina Dubbeld of Children's Coach De Vuurtoren. She thinks there is something behind that annoyance and advises parents to ask themselves questions. “Consider to what extent you are okay with teaching your child, whether you can accept the current situation and whether you feel the space to practice tables with your child. Answer all these questions honestly. You may find that you actually find the whole situation ridiculous or difficult. That you are supposed to "just work" and let your child do schoolwork. Then it is only logical that it sometimes does not work. My suggestion: get together to get angry at corona and everything it changes and means for you. Take a large sheet of paper and scratch it, walk to the bedroom, get a pillow and ram it on the bed. Throw it out. Do this together. Of course this is not going to solve anything, but it feels wonderful to recognize that it is a difficult situation for both of you. "" Let your child move around a lot first. Do you have a trampoline? Perfect! '
The current situation creates a lot of unrest. According to children's coach Dubbeld, this can play a role in the difficult learning at home: “As soon as a child does not feel safe or is afraid, there will be less motivation to focus on school. He has a different priority and that disturbs his motivation and concentration. Talk to him about the situation, explain briefly and succinctly what is going on and regularly check how he is doing now. ” That the daily routine is different now can also play tricks, Dubbeld thinks: “In a normal situation we get up in the morning, have breakfast and cycle to school. Now we skip that part of the bike because we are at home. It is precisely this part that is so important to many children. Just as good exercise ensures that children get well in their bodies, wake up well and there is oxygen and space to feed the head. See what happens if you get your child to move a lot before you start doing your homework. Do you have a trampoline in the garden? Perfect! Finally, don't get stuck in the negative. Start every day with a clean slate. New round, new opportunities. You will see that this will make a lot of difference. ”
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