The parenting issue: the fair evening has come

12 Apr 2021Updated: 4 hours ago | 52 people are reading

The parenting issue: the fair evening has come

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Melanie's eight-year-old son Jayden is starting to ask more critical questions about Sinterklaas. Does she have to tell him the truth and how does she do it?

Last year Sinterklaas was celebrated with Melanie in full conviction with her two sons. But her eldest son is increasingly questioning the state of affairs around the children's party: "Last week he asked how Saint Nicholas could get it to go to all the children on one evening. And he thinks it is crazy that so many different sinterklazen - he thinks helpless strangely. Usually I come up with an explanation on the spot, but do these questions not indicate that he is ready to know the truth? And how do I tell him without a drama? "

It makes perfect sense for Jayden to walk around with these questions, says Annelies Bobeldijk of WOW! Parenting coaching. That is in fact due to his age: "Children up to 6 years old can 'magically think', but after that age they start to think more realistically and ask critical questions. 8 years is therefore a great age to get to know the truth about Sinterklaas. starting with surprises in group 5. That is a good reason to start the conversation. "

And if your child comes with questions himself? Then you pick up on that, Bobeldijk advises: "Then put the question back:" How do you think Sinterklaas does that? " While talking, children often find out how the fork is in. Children can come up with this themselves and come to the right conclusion, as long as you ask the right questions as a parent. "

then the curtain has fallen: your child now knows that you were the one who filled the shoe all those years, ate the carrot for the horse and brought the gifts into the house. Do not think about this too easily, the parenting coach says: "Sometimes children are genuinely very sad about this, they find it really a shame that Sinterklaas does not exist. Or they feel a bit cheated. As a parent, you should take the time to do that It is a farewell to something they have believed in for years. As a parent you must acknowledge this “mourning process.” Say that you understand that it is unfortunate that it is all different than your child thought, and then emphasize that you are still there. make it a fun party. "