This is why house sparrows are not boring
05 Mar 2021Updated: 4 hours ago | people are reading
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All appointments have been canceled and we barely get out the door. Aware of how privileged I am that I can work from home and - apart from groceries - do not have to leave my house, I am never bored. I am a real house sparrow.
According to Ad Vingerhoets, professor of Emotions and Well-Being, house sparrows really feel good when they are at home. “They feel a strong connection with their home situation, physical environment or the routine they are in. It is often also a group of people who find change difficult. ”
“ Some people have a great need for control, ”says the professor. “The loss of this is an important stress factor. You have the most control where you are at home, at least you know exactly how it goes. In the rest of the world, all kinds of things can happen and that tension and sensation is not appreciated by everyone. ”
According to Vingerhoets, that is the other way around for some. Ordinary life does not give them enough stimuli, which makes them thrill seekers. They are looking for challenges in car racing, scuba diving or bungee jumping, for example.
House sparrows get homesick more quickly than adventurers. Vingerhoets: "You are in love with your house to some degree, or at least extremely attached to it. Just as you can become attached to a human or to pets. It means that there is a certain aversion or reluctance to leave your home, because you always have the feeling that you are missing something or someone. ”
According to Vingerhoets, if you are homesick, for the time being no psychological tricks proven to be effective. "You should try to deal with it."
"You can normalize being away from home by preparing well. Even when you are away from home, you can still practice routines that keep some habits the same. Or take something from home that you are attached to. ”
“ Nowadays, you are much closer to home because you can (video) call each other. ” But you should also be careful with that, warns the professor.
"When a child calls," Mama, I miss you, "the mother will cry too. Then the child thinks: "I made Mommy sad." That is even more reason to go home. "
" House sparrows have the image to be a bit boring, "continues Vingerhoets. "But they have a lot of imagination because they settle for adventures they get from books and movies. Moreover, they are satisfied people who find peace in themselves more quickly. ”
“ House sparrows can also be loyal friends; for them it is an outing to visit friends and family because it is usually in the same familiar place. ”
Nevertheless, according to the professor, we all need some kind of activation of the brain. “With too little activity you sleep, in the middle you function well and with too many stimuli you experience stress or panic. For some, the activation is already thirty kilometers away when you visit the campsite, the other only at a bungee jump in New Zealand. ”
He thinks it is understandable that everyone is now doing jobs or working in the garden. . "You make a virtue of necessity."
"The adventurers are the hardest now. They believe that they are very limited and believe that sitting at home is unnecessary. They come up with all kinds of ideas that they cannot implement now. ” According to Vingerhoets, it makes it even more difficult to digest the situation than when you think: "Now it is not fun, but we have to go through it."
However, according to him, house sparrows should not really enjoy , should there be an overall lockdown. "They would also like to go outside, especially in this weather."
Everyone is different, emphasizes the professor. “Some people like nothing more than to travel far, others travel by reading a nice story. They miss things in a way, but that's the tradeoff you make. Count your blessings in the things that you experience and like. ”
Although you prefer to share all the adventures with your friends, according to Professor of Emotions and Well-being Ad Vingerhoets must respect that your friend is a house sparrow. Do not put too much pressure on them to let them do things they don't like. “You sometimes see that in families where grandma turns eighty and the grandchildren want to celebrate in Spain, while grandma has never been abroad. You can't make such a grandmother more unhappy. ”