What apparently you should never say to your partner

13 Apr 2021Updated: 4 hours ago | 52 people are reading

What apparently you should never say to your partner

© Maaike Oude Geerdink What you apparently never have to say to your partner

You sometimes have those moments when you prefer to stick your partner behind the wallpaper. We've all been there. And then it can happen that something happens that you didn't want to say at all. And now there seem to be three things you'd better never tell your partner, at least according to a psychologist.

1. If you really love me, then ...

This is emotional blackmail and it can make you end up in a ping-pong match. In the end you only make it worse and you don't want that. What better to say? Ask what keeps your partner from doing that one thing.

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2. Why isn't it between us like in the past?

Love changes over time. It is unrealistic to hope that the relationship will be the same as before. You change and grow together as well. This causes change. What better to ask for? "I would like you to do X as you used to do".

3. You are just like your mother / father

Not only is this an unfair defensive reaction, it is also an attack on a family member of your partner. Discuss and argue, but keep your arguments tidy. And avoid the above to prevent you from causing permanent damage, while you are (most likely) bothered by a bad mood. It's a shame to risk your relationship for that.